Need someone to talk to who really gets it?
Personal coaching for pastors’ wives who feel stretched thin and just need a safe place to be honest, breathe deeply, and start healing.
Finally... a space for pastors' wives.
You’re showing up for everyone else. But who’s checking in on you?
Vibrant Coaching is a gentle, one-on-one space where you can talk with someone who understands ministry life from the inside. It’s not a program. It’s not counseling. It’s personal support shaped around your story, your pace, and your real life.
What You'll Walk Away With
Freedom from roles you were never meant to carry
Confidence in your God-given identity
Tools for rest, boundaries, and peace
Language for what you’ve been feeling but couldn’t say
A safe place to be yourself without guilt or pressure
Meet Whitney
Hi, I’m Whitney. I'm a pastor’s wife, certified mental health coach, and the author of Burn the Boxes. I’ve spent over 25 years in church ministry, and I created Vibrant Coaching for women like you.
If you’ve ever felt like you have to hold it all together but don’t know how to breathe again, I want to help. These coaching sessions are personal, honest, and shaped entirely around your story.
Keeping it Simple
How it Works
6 one-on-one coaching sessions via Zoom or phone
First session is always free
Optional reflection notes and email support between sessions
Continue for $75 per session or $300 for the remaining five (save $75)
ATTENTION: Pastor's Wife
Is this Right for Me?
You feel tired but can’t explain why
You’ve lost joy in ministry or marriage
You feel like no one understands what you’re carrying
You want to stop pretending and feel whole again
Still Have Questions?
It's OK if you're not ready to talk.
Just send me a message and we can begin a text-based conversation.
BurN THE BOXES: BECOMING WHO GOD HAS CALLED YOU TO BE AS A PASTOR'S WIFE
A Book for Every Woman in Ministry Who Feels Trapped by Expectations
What if freedom begins by burning the boxes you were never meant to fit in?
Burn the Boxes is written for the woman who is tired of pretending, tired of performing, and ready to rediscover who God actually created her to be.
Whitney Shafer knows the pressure of being a pastor’s wife — the unspoken rules, the invisible expectations, and the constant fear of not being “enough.” This book is an invitation to something better.
Read my blog:
When Pastors’ Wives Feel Spiritually Dry: What Living Water Really Means
Even with the Holy Spirit, spiritual dryness is real. This post offers biblical clarity, grace, and practical hope for pastors’ wives walking through weary seasons. ...more
Vibrant
June 03, 2025•6 min read
What Most People Don’t Know About Being a Pastor’s Wife
She’s not just the woman beside the pastor. She’s fighting battles you’ll never see, many of them for you. A must-read for anyone in church life or ministry. ...more
Vibrant
May 27, 2025•4 min read
Not for Sale: What Every Pastor’s Wife Needs to Know About God’s Timing
When life feels delayed or denied, this reminder for ministry wives brings hope: God’s gifts aren’t earned. They’re prepared in advance for you, and for His perfect timing. ...more
Vibrant
May 20, 2025•4 min read
